Is it hard work?

In a couple blogs I have said that I believe you have to work quite hard at being happy; that happiness doesn’t just happen and you have to keep at aiming for happiness. I also believe that it is far easier and less work to be miserable than it is to be happy.

So when I received Seth Godin’s blog last night on Positive Thinking I couldn’t help but make the link to being happy or being miserable. Seth is an amazing guy – he has published heaps of books, he is a marketing guru, he blogs every day and just about every blog has an impact. And something else…if you email him he replies, in person.

I was particularly taken with his comment “Negative thinking protects us and lowers expectations”. The same thing applies to being miserable – you are protected, you dont have to commit to anything and there are much lower expectations of you.

This is Seth’s blog; (http://sethgodin.typepad.com/)

The problem with positive thinking

All the evidence I've seen shows that positive thinking and confidence improves performance. In anything.

Give someone an easy math problem, watch them get it right and then they'll do better on the ensuing standardized test than someone who just failed a difficult practice test.

No, positive thinking doesn't allow you to do anything, but it's been shown over and over again that it improves performance over negative thinking.

Key question then: why do smart people engage in negative thinking? Are they actually stupid?
The reason, I think, is that negative thinking feels good. In its own way, we believe that negative thinking works. Negative thinking feels realistic, or soothes our pain, or eases our embarrassment. Negative thinking protects us and lowers expectations.

In many ways, negative thinking is a lot more fun than positive thinking. So we do it.
If positive thinking was easy, we'd do it all the time. Compounding this difficulty is our belief that the easy thing (negative thinking) is actually appropriate, it actually works for us. The data is irrelevant. We're the exception, so we say.

Positive thinking is hard. Worth it, though.